How we perceive, feel and think about our bodies and our sense of how other people view our bodies is more important than the reality of your actual physical appearance
According to research, approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies.
During the past 5 years, consumer spending doubled, pornography became the main media category and thirty-three thousand American women told researchers that they would rather lose 10-15 pounds than acheive any other goal.
The greater our discontent with how we measure up when compared to social standards or media supported norms (Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter) the more negative our body image and the lower our self-esteem will be.
The greater the risk for and resort to :
- Expensive cosmetic surgery (who hasn’t though about a little Botox or Fillers, liposuction, bigger boobs or a perfectly symmetrical nose)
- Unhealthy extreme diets (Fasting, low carbohydrate/calories, high protein, paleo, ketogenic, IIFYM, sounds familiar?)
- Extreme exercise compulsion (Is your workout is always your top priority, are your a slave to fitbit ?)
- Weight obsessions (weighting yourself multiple times a day, counting calories, beleiving thinness will magically solve your problems, tricks to avoid eating or hunger)
- Bulimia, anorexia, binge eating
- Using steroids for muscle building and weight loss (yes, women too)
- Mental disorders and conditions (anxiety, depression, body dysmorphia, substance abuse and dependance)
Just to achieve their ideal body shape.
About 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed in the media (and even then, the perfect girl you’re constantly creeping on instagram probably photoshops, airbrushes or edits her pictures – even i’m guilty of touching up selfies with retouching software)
So roughly speaking, you’re being bombarded everyday with hundreds of images and messages of people seeming totally happy, perfect and having amazing lives and it’s impossible to not feel like there’s something wrong with you (even though we are well aware that everything is not as it’s posted)
Our culture of self-comparison today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations – all the positive and self-help stuff we hear, read and buy all the time, all those beautiful women we see and envy on social medias, all those promises the beauty industry are handing us are actually making us fixate on what we lack.
It’s making you feel as though you aren’t succesful enough, loved enough, healthy enough, fit enough, pretty enough, rich enough, intelligent enough etc. It reminds us over and over of what we are not, what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be.
I am here to tell you that your are enough and being overly stressed, overly neurotic and overly self-loathing about this or that is part of being human.